It comes as a surprise to many business owners that despite how hard they work, there are things they’re probably doing everyday that are undermining their success.
This truth is especially hard to accept if you’re a health professional, because you’ve built your entire practice around living a healthy life and helping your clients practice good boundaries, self-care, and yes, avoid self-sabotage in their own lives.
But still – we all fall victim to it. Despite how much we know.
And we don’t even realise it’s happening.
This is why I say again and again that you don’t need more information. You really don’t. You need to learn how to implement and follow through on what you already know.
If you’re feeling like you need to go out and get more information, more knowledge and more skills before you can take action, I’ve written this post for you today.
These are the symptoms of self-sabotage. And they will hold you back more than any other problem you encounter in your practice.
1. Procrastination
Symptoms:
- Putting things off or waiting until the last minute despite the anxiety this causes you
- Intrusive thoughts about the thing you’re avoiding
- Believing that you work better under pressure
- Delivering sub-par work because you didn’t give yourself enough time to do a good job
Outcome:
Shoddy work and the belief that I’m not good enough – “why do I always do this to myself?”
2. Perfectionism
Symptoms:
- Avoiding action until you have collected, analysed and made sense of every possible piece of information and potential outcome
- Proofreading and editing everything you create about 500 times
- Dozens of unfinished projects and great ideas that never got off the ground
Outcome:
Feeling stuck and never ready to take action, fear of being judged, rejected and ridiculed. Constantly waiting until you feel ready and safe.
3. Busyness
Symptoms
- Always emailing, on facebook, cleaning
- Or my personal favourite – baking
- Creating new filing systems and work for yourself
- Finding reasons to leave the office – coffee run, anyone?
Outcome:
You are so damn busy that there’s no way you could have got THAT THING done, right?! You feel like you have a lack of choice, freedom and a little bit like you’re stuck on a hamster wheel with no progress to show.
4. Being Unorganised
Symptoms
- Double booking yourself
- Cancelling appointments because you didn’t think it through
- Rewriting reports and notes because you couldn’t find what you had started earlier
- Having to re-educate the same team member over the same issue again and again due to lack of process
- Unable to write a report or update notes because it happened 4 weeks ago (oops) and you can’t remember the session
Outcome:
Feeling like a mad scientist, overwhelmed and like there is just too much on your plate to handle and do well.
5. Choosing “nice to have” over purposeful and strategic
Symptoms:
- Conversations that go on for too long without a real purpose
- Spending a lot of time exploring details that aren’t going to help you make a decision and move forward
- An email chain that could have been prevented with a single phone call
- Not implementing the systems in your business that you need for scheduling, invoicing and client management
Outcome:
Your head is cluttered with a lot of nice to know stuff that stops you from being able to execute with a clear sense of purpose and strategy. You’re exhausted and disappointed that nothing seems to be working out properly and everything takes so. damn. long.
6. Poor self-care
Symptoms
- Waking up with coffee and going to sleep with wine
- Flopping on the lounge at the end of the day and not moving because you have nothing left in the tank
- Less than 3000 steps a day
- Not looking after your posture (I see you slouching and sitting all day)
- No water at all during the day
- Eating out frequently
Outcome:
You feel slow, sluggish, sore, tired, hungry, tired yet can’t get a good night’s sleep. You’re anxious and annoyed that you’re not looking after yourself like you’d like to. You say no to opportunities because of how you feel about yourself.
7. Over-commitment
Symptoms
- Avoiding scheduling your time because… you don’t have any time to do that
- A belief that you don’t need to write it down because you’re a wizard who remembers EVERYTHING!
- Always saying yes out of obligation and fear of what will happen if you say no
Outcome:
You make a lot of mistakes and work tends to fall through the cracks because there is just too much of it handle. You’re embarrassed and you want to give up because you just don’t enjoy this work any more.
Which of these signs do you see in yourself?
This post isn’t about berating you or making you feel less than. I see these traits in myself all the time – it is a very human thing to get in our own way.
But I want you to be real with yourself – how are you shooting yourself in the foot each day?
How are we going to tackle that to make sure you see your potential in 2017?
I have two options for you:
- Share your plan to tackle self-sabotage with us in the comments below – what will you do differently? This blog might help you answer that question.
- If you don’t have a plan, join me, in person, where we can workshop this live together in a room with other clinicians in private practice who are ready to make 2017 a year of forward momentum and success:
If you sign up for the 2 Day San Francisco Masterclass before September 1, you’ll receive 3 whole months of group private practice coaching with me, for free.
Seriously – “I can’t afford it” is no longer an excuse, because we’ll be working together on how you can use a simple strategy that I teach all of my clients to help them get more referrals, clients and income into their business in 6 weeks – just in time for San Fran.
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Hi Jo,
I read your blog, and can identify with perfectionism, nice to have and poor self care. I just finished my degree and feel very unprepared to venture into the real world with it. I went and got an ED certification because it is something I feel strongly about but don’t feel prepared to use it either. Serious imposter syndrome : Why would anyone listen to me about BED, when I am not thin? Why would anyone come to see me when I just graduated? I participated in your last webinar, and always seem to be signing up for more, in hopes I will finally feel like a real therapist and be able to see clients successfully. To combat this I am working on starting my first website. ( more difficult then I anticipated) and am allowing the ED trainer to put me on her referral list. Wish I could come to SF for your class, but not this year. Any suggestions would be appreciated. Will continue to follow your stuff, as i find you very helpful and down to earth.
thanks
mychal.
Hey Mychal, thanks for leaving such a powerful comment. Please know you are not alone! I remember in m first few years every time I say a client I became so concerned that I was going to ” break them” because who was I to have anything f value to offer them. For you confidence will come with the doing. However in the meantime, it would be great for you to get with someone you trust and start to speak out and write down the things you know. If you have studies and completed any type of tertiary training, then you know stuff. If you are over the age of 18, then you also know stuff – and you know stuff that people need to know. Please stop comparing yourself to other who have been doing this for years and years. Your greatest asset right now is that you want o be better – but lets not let that get in the way of not doing anything. Record your wins and your successes ( hint Book of Evidence).
Can I ask why you can’t make it to San Fran – the reason I ask is that there is a BONUS of 3 months group coaching that I think would be super awesome for you to be a part of….. The point of this coaching is to make sure people have the strategy and support to actually make the money they need to attend the 2 day event. You see, I don’t want people NOT coming because they think they can’t afford it. Let me help you with that !!!
Please feel free to contact me at admin@jomuirhead,com, if you would prefer to not have this conversation on the website.
Hi Jo,
Thank you so much for the read. I am just starting out as a business coach. I even thought I don’t have enough or the right information to become a good coach 🙂 perfectionism kicks in to persuade me that “I am not well educated with a counselling/ coaching degree, so I decided to do my Master in Human resources Management.” My reason being that with my “extra” knowledge in human resources, I am well able to be “a knowledgeable and an excellent life and organisational coach! You hit the nail on the head, I have all the theoretical knowledge about human behaviour. Now I must apply that knowledge to practical purpose.
Thank you again, Jo, much appreciation!
Lucy Bossard (in PNG)
Hey Lucy, and I thank you for your courage. There is nothing wrong with wanting to be excellent, nothing at all… unless that desire stops us from taking action. I wish you every success.